“It takes a child-like curiosity, shifting own state (as Tony Robbins puts it really well), and a bit of risk-taking to just get out there, show up and find ways of getting nurtured within my New Earth community” – by guest blogger Masha Duna
Every time I want to hide in my shell, away from people
like a caterpillar who wants to transform in silence, in its dark cave of
happy solitude – the universe says: “Get out there, Mash!” ..
connect, study friendships and trust, emotional intimacy
and this thing called human connection. And here I go again, with my Earth Day Festival flyers as an excuse to reach out – making my way to the depths of unexpected friendships, and people’s open hearts to receive me as I am with all my little fears and big shiny eyes,
with my trembling heart that didn’t used to know how to socialise,
how to feel good in public gatherings, how to find my own spot within a larger group and stay connected……..
Little did I know there are hundreds of people having similar experience and unable to find the answer and are simply settling for a lone existence.
Here is what helps me personally if I intent to “get out there” more but feeling a bit “stuck” in my own space:
The Bigger Picture: it is just as important to be self-sufficient (& happy being alone) as it is to learn how to function within a community. The bigger picture is that when I learn “how to get on” with my locals there soon will be neighborhoods, countries, continents of people who are just getting on. Imagine! I can then use what I learned in the safety of Community Circles like these (EarthFest, EarthSong Camps, Circle Way) and bring it into my own family – a place where in my own experience the most dysfunction has accumulated and calls for more clarity, even more patience & determination of an unstoppable love.
Remembering to use the Body to Shift my Emotional State throughout the day: Shaking up, making a decision to do a sudden set of sit-ups or alternating warm shower with a cold refreshing splash – have all been the ways of snapping myself or my family members predominant state of conversations, being, and thinking. This is really worth your while to watch some of the Tony Robbins youtubes on relationships, emotional states, and anything you can learn on “shifting the state” (My personal philosophy is “Don’t shoot the messenger. If you do not like the teacher’s ways, Masha, you can still learn supre-valuable info from anyone”.) Here one of the dozens of things I learnt: Oftentimes any relationship would have a chosen “emotional state” that defines the predominant mood of the two people interacting when in each other’s company. Lightness, humour, presence to each other’s needs has been my recent chosen state and I use the above body techniques to “snap myself out of the old ways” of say “winning opinion arguments” as fun pass-times that prevent me from something I’d much rather do, like to stop, breathe and say with full of my being: “Hey, guys, I love yous” and appreciate yous, thank you for being in my life even when I am not perfect!
Taking one action: “Am I living my life to the fullest, in this moment ?“… And this moment? And this moment? And this moment? Breathe. Hear myself.. …And if my answer is a “No”, then the next question is: “What can I do right now to feel that I am living my life to the fullest?” Oftentimes when I’d get a “no”, the solution answer would be ever so simple: Get up and get a good stretch, Masha! Buy me a “good food lunch” today and not necessarily the “cheapest food meal” you can save on! or… “Put on the TED Talk from your “Watch Later” Playlist, Mash, instead of the music you are playing on the background.”
Asking Who Needs Help: When in a state of solitude-craving in a way that is not nurturing but is rather “closed-off” from connecting with the outer world (and hence not allowing the love of others to float in with ease), it can really help to “get out of my little self”and out into my bigger wider, more expansive self, To leave my comfy prison cell I ask a question from those whose projects I admire: “Hey, I see you are doing this cool thing that is going to help many people, I like it, what can I do to help? I’d really like to be a part of it ?”
And show up!
At the moment I am learning how to mix a mentality of New Earth (Eco People’s thinking) and the mentality of Success (Millionaire Mindset thinking) and how to find the integrated balance of the two. One of the things I found is that in studying the biggest self-made millionaires success stories there is a common trend of a type of “advice”, the tips that they offer to people who want to learn. One of those is: Half of success, is just showing up! And to keep on showing up*
(*From a story of the four investors that were invited to the Facebook founder meeting back in its early days, but only one bothered to show up…and look at Facebook success now: The power of Facebook to make millions in revenue AND to connect people almost effortlessly in ways that were unheard of before. I met my former date & current business partner through Facebook, with whom we birthed projects like Conscious Concert, Power of Love Conscious New Years Party..and even the funny no-go idea of “Naked Meadows Fest” back in 2014 a space for having a nude festival in Ireland despite of our weather – were all pre-manifestations of community projects like this – Earth Fest Ireland.
See yous there!
this Earth Festival’s grandmother no-go idea of funny random
xxMa www.earthfest.ie | #ireland #festival #green on an #eco #organic farm